Saturday, 23 May 2009

A letter I was given after my Mother's death (October 1987)

Dearest Laura

I hope that you are being a good girl for your Daddy and looking after him and [your sister]. I know that it will be strange for you all but in time it will get better.

Remember me with a little tear at first and afterwards with a laugh. We had a lot of fun times and you will have a lot more at first with Daddy and [your sister], later with your own friends. Later still you may be very lucky, as I was, and meet a very special person to share your life with.

Please try to be honest with yourself and don't knowlingly hurt anyone. Be happy and care about others.

I hope that you will grow up to be healthy and happy with a few special friends. Don't worry of you are on your own sometimes. Learn to enjoy your own company and then others will.

Whatever happens to us when we die I feel at peace with God and more than happy with my wonderful family and friends. If I go to heaven I will watch over you and never stop caring for my loved ones.

Don't forget to do the things you have to do before the things you want to.

My love forever

Mummy xxx


  1. Very wise words and not only that but incredibley accurate, with love from one of your special friends x

  2. Beautifully and sensitively written, brought a tear to my eyes and clutched at my heart.
    x jo

  3. Just a month later, in November 1987, my mother also died of cancer. How I wish I had a letter from her like yours. I was 16, so have many more memories, but still a gaping hole where a Mum ought to be. Thank you.

  4. What a beautiful letter. My good friend MK has stage 4 lung cancer and a little girl of 6. My heart is just breaking for her - she knows how ever much time she has it won't be enough. I'll have t read back and find out more - I didn't know you had this blog.

  5. Can't type for tears. More love. xxxx

  6. Beautiful heart breaking letter.

    You are lucky in the respect that your mother had the time to write a letter to you. Sadly I know people whose parents died suddenly and with no warning and did not have time to leave their children such a wonderful gift.

    For years I have been saying that I want to sit down and write letters for my loved ones. You never know when your time may be up and if God forbid I should be taken away from them before old age, I would like to leave them something.